It took three months of job postings and interviews, but we finally found a mother’s helper who could be the extra hands we needed when I was home alone with my twin infants and two year old daughter. She was a college student studying to be a teacher. Connecting immediately with my daughter, I knew she was the right one. We could only afford for her to come two days a week at four hours each, but it made a world of difference. My daughter got lunch on time and had a playmate. I had someone to help me when both the boys needed something. Within weeks we were venturing out of the house to places like The Wildlife Experience or the park – a feat I once thought was never possible when my kids were so young.
There are several professionals in your community who can be hired to help you. Help can also be found for free, if you know where to look. Below are those who help and the difference they can make in your life.
1) Doula. Most doulas help you when you’re in labor, but some will help you in the post-partum period. If you are expecting multiples, aim to have one person per child for the first two months in order to maintain your sanity. Doulas spend most of their time helping you with the babies, but many of them will do chores around the house as well. You can find a doula in Colorado through a Google search or with this link: http://www.coloradodoulas.com/
2) Mother’s Helper. Mother’s Helpers are usually in their teens to early twenties and are hired to help you with daily tasks with older infants. Occasionally, older Mother’s Helpers are hired to help overnight when moms have to return to work and need more sleep. Mother’s Helpers can be found through babysitting and nanny websites such as: http://www.mothers-helpers.net/denver/services.html
3) Family/Friends. Family and friends are the best help. Their services are free! Before you deliver your babies, tell your family and friends specific things they can do to help you when the babies come. It might seem obvious that the three foot high pile of dirty diapers at the door to the garage need to be transferred to the trash, but for some people, they need you to give them the go ahead to help you. Laundry and dishes pile up fast as well. Both tasks consume time you don’t have. Ask people to run a load of laundry or clear the sink when they visit.
4) Neighbors. Neighbors are awesome for helping with outdoor chores like shoveling or mowing. Teenagers are perfect for this with their boundless energy and want of cash. Secure your help before you deliver your babies and be sure to have cash or check on hand when they’ve finished shoveling or mowing.
With these guides in mind, reach out for help. You can never have enough. And remember, “This too shall pass.”
Jennifer Smith-Daigle is a stay-at-home mother of a third grade daughter and twin kindergarten boys. She and her boys are survivors of Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome, being some of the first 200 people in the United States to be cured by Fetoscopic Laser Ablation surgery. Jennifer’s life before kids included world travel, historic preservation, and archaeology digs. When she’s not busy with a house full of kids and enough mammals to constitute a small zoo, Jennifer finds freedom in freelance writing, martial arts, and gardening.